Typically, people do not cheat simply because they are accustomed to being promiscuous (or have been in the past). There's countless men with who she has either talked or shared pictures with or kissed etc etc, some of them while she was in a relationship as wel. Like my mother told me when I was a teenager, if Men are dogs, which they are usually. Denna-nenna-nent-nent-denna-nenna-nenna-nenna-Denna-nenna-nent-nent-denna-nenna-nenna-nenna Ma-Ma-Ma-My Sharona!. Whatever. Altamera74, from a chicks point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner. So it is hilarious when it is a bad thing to judge someone for something thought to be bad but dont make such a big fuss about it when someone is being JUDGED for doing something good. You can probably answer that. Before she told you the number and after she told you the number she is still the same woman you fell in love with. No man grows up saying, I cant wait to find a nice slut to settle down and build a family with!!. Not just with them, but with you. Of course it is fair to judge people on the decisions they have made in life. They go to interview for a job, should the employer now say, hey even though the person you present to us today is worthy of the job, we heard that you failed the ninth grade and that shows that we cant trust you to be what we need you to be. That example uses the same principle you are trying to stand on. Not truly. Remember every saint was once a sinner down and every sinner can become a saint and stand tall. Its so they wont feel so bad about what they consider negatives about themselves or to justify them staying with someone who is totally wrong for them. You are not sexually compatible) 6. No I dont want to do it again. while, recklessly, and if I crash? I agree that people who have engaged in very promiscuous behavior have exposed themselves to the possibility of having one or more of the 5 issues you laid out. The emotional component I can build well in a live- in arrangement, before we finally settle down. Thus conconcluding in divorce. We have had this conversation. I understand the views of all who have chimed in on this topic. around, her value diminishes in terms of her being less chaste, which is less Not at all. Ask her about her thoughts on it and her expectations now and in the future. Cheers. Men have conqiustadorian aditudes about many things including women. If you feel that this is the case, maybe consider whether it is fair for her to have you in her life. So its cool to wife up a porn star? And Im not certain what state your from but getting divorced is not easy. Men like to know what theyre investing in is rare. It carries some truth to it undoubtedly. I just wanted to share so that some man one day can know hes not alone. This is what society gets for sexual liberation. If i have to move out of town or state just so I dont have to deal with her many past smashes, then it aint worth it! on how people should behave with their bodies. would want a man who thinks this way, otherwise, she is going to just end with Individuals must and should always attend to their home garden and not others. Its like seeing a movie, all is in the past. You will feel that you left . Womens happiness within committed relationships also goes down as her partner count increases. I completely agree with you that a womans sexual health (i.e. have the ability to make the best choices for herselfimpulse control This is why a woman can get almost any guy to have sex with her but men have to work at getting a woman to agree to have sex him. Sure, they can lie but I have always found the real number later and left them. Its about respect. Im also pretty sure she wants to be with me and nobody else at this pointon top of the fact that shes cried in front of me and feels super ashamed. To people who have had sex with too many people: It is So it isnt the actual number that really matters, it is what her behaviors displays due to her experiences or for whatever reason. I like how you caught yourself on that : ). maintenance issues. Be very wary of that. oh,stacy,you live and learn.bigger fish too fry. Which is funny because The more rare a commodity is the more valuable it becomes. Past promiscuity is not what causes a marriage to fail in my opinion. That is just my opinion but we are all entitled to go about life however we please. What do her previous partners have to do with who she is today? And yes, I enjoy educating the ignorant, such as yourself, on such topics. Messing with them is the same as messing with everyone else they been with. I apologize if it seems I am implying that women who enjoy and have had many sex partners are simply victims of abuse. NO! If you don't respect her, don't date her. There are women who have been with one man, and have gotten an STD. Then she knocked on a door and a guy in his underwear opened it, and she walked in and closed the door. good to remind your lover that it was in the past and you cant change it. oppressed and that some of their traditions are backwards. Shes going to be somebodys wife or girlfriend, because he values her more than his immature philosophy. If your not going to be responsible w/ your body your either going to lose that double standard, or lose respect. Redirect your thoughts gently when they get off track, as if you were correcting a puppy. A couple of reasons for promiscuity, and a couple of examples. They're your property. Instead of making the number of guys/gals she/he has been with a deal When we do that the message continues to live on. A mess you gonna have these women out here single and lonely.. Lol hold up, I didnt write Why I go through his phone that was a guest blogger (OnlyOneHeaven.com) but I did write this article. The summary in red pill logic is a girl who has slept around a lot will have a lot of emotional issues and will end up cheating on you. Lmao!!! No one wants to date a girl thats been ran through. Actually, the vagina does not get loose. Actually the fact that she has been with a few guys before settling down makes me feel special to be the chosen one. There really is no advice. 15 years later and it doesn't matter even a little bit. Yet that does not change the fact higher numbers is not a guarantee that the woman you see before you today isnt at a place in life where she can be best suited for you. We have been together for almost a year now. Hey knows how I am but still wants a relationship with me. Just saying that people have been held accountable for their past since the beginning of time. Mainly because I got tired of men judging me. No track record of long-term relationships, combined with promiscuous behaviour, is always a bad sign, regardless of philosophy. Are you telling me that the number of sex partners she then tells you is worth walking away from this woman. Times may have changed in some perspectives but evolution is a long process and these inbred instincts are deeply rooted which is why most men will have sex with a slutty girl, but will never marry or commit to her. If her vagina still makes you come who cares how loose or tight it is. A woman can own her body without giving it to every Tom, Dick, and Harry who comes along. no. Am I saying that women that have what would be considered a large number of partners should be shunned? You dont sound like an expert. There are enough people in the world for those to attain who they desire as they judge and chooseand more than anything it is the persons actions that will speak louder so there will be no room to judge for anything past or present! If you are 30 and you had sex with 30 people, its hard to accept, Im reformed!. I have those same tendencies, but as a female. It would make it harder and harder for you to bond in a marriage and eventually be happy. Ive been involved with both chaste and promiscuous women. They are seeking love. If more women had respect for themselves and abstained from sleeping around there would not be any male sluts running around would there? I have heard from women sex is just sex then what is to keep her from having sex with anyone if it means nothing to her to have sex with just anyone. Big problem with your logic: when we are choosing a mate to be with, we inherently judge whether that person is the best for us to be with. were. This is why the whole idea of using her number of past partners as criteria is unnecessary. If you I would suggest understanding what trust, love, respect, communication, and support actually mean and how they function. YOU HAVE THE SEXUAL POWER, YOU ALWAYS HAVE, stop trying to put men as the sexual power holders, its just dumb. amenities; whether it was in the far past or recent past. Deal with them. I have always been happy go lucky and respectful of myself. Now does that change your perspective? I practice EFT (emotional freedom technique) to get rid of emotional baggages which i guess he couldn understand. Choosing a good partner can have a major impact on your well-being. And if he did, I would not be honest. Whereas for a woman to sleep around, she has risks of raising a child, she takes that risk when sleeping around even with contraception for her own emotional desires See more The woman can claim child support from the dad, and having a baby is a 2 way thing. But once you get into the booty call territory, or some other lines of just having sex with men because it is satisfying makes men look at you cynically. I will say I still do think it is best for everybody to slow things down and if possible wait. I understand how people may view that person, but that doesnt make it right. So sure, women can be sluts and then claim they have grown, and changed, and moved past that time of their lives. Youre doing the right thing, love beats all just think how you would feel looking back at now when youre on your death bed about to pass onto the other realm. Imagine for a moment that the United States was an egalitarian society. If you don't identify with this kind of perspective then what is it about her that you value? Because if not, there should be no issue. so we moved on.. after 2 yrs, i am look for an arranged marriage (pretty normal in India). Whether youre male or female, I dont think its fair to be judged on how many partners youve had. What would Jesus do? Any person with more sex partners than years of life has an addiction and needs to be rehabilitated. I find guys who sleep around to be disgusting also, but they aren't of any interest to me because I am a straight male. Rest are the best women who should be given salute and Respect in the society and Life and they had earned the title to be called Wife and not a Slut (as Whore does sex for MONEY not Satisfaction or ENJOYMENT). Secondly, men want to marry women who have not slept with a The fact that men are completely excused from this behavior while women are chastised for it left and right is just amazing to me. The idea that a large percentage of dudes do want to settle down or have only LTR's shouldn't be news to anyone. Men are equally free as you to care (or not) how many partners their woman has been with. Sex isnt just for men. And some dudes value the experience of a woman who has been around. with.. What happens to the guy that took a chance on her got his emotions wrapped up in her only to have them stomped on? I must have placed my comment in the wrong area so Ill place it here too. Hallelujah!!! you simply can't turn a hoe into a house wife regardless of what you say or do. thats okay. So lets say you meet a woman and start to date her. And while I was confident she would never cheat on me, it still bothered me that she let that many men use her that way before me. Recognize and appreciate how they have changed and evolved throughout the years, what they have done to improve themselves, and what goals they have in the future. Its more likely that my comments are going to garner negativity but I think its good to have a healthy view on such things. Not all relationships were meant to last. So yes your number matters a lot I dont care what any man says it matters, it is in our genetic make up and in our most natural instincts to want someone that is not tainted by another man. 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